How do I pick a guardian for my children?

Angel-2906712_640One of the hardest things that parents have to do is decide who will raise their children if they are no longer alive. Most people don’t think about that possibility, and deciding who is a daunting task.  

We often are asked by clients who they should pick as the guardians for their children. we that is not a legal decision, but a family decision that is far beyond our pay grade. Parents often ask what is normal.  There is no “normal”. When you are deciding who is going to raise your children, “normal” is what is right for you.

As a general rule, you want to pick somebody who shares your values, morals, ethics, and, if important to you, your religion. keeping children in the same school district may be an Important consideration.  All of these factors help in determining who the child should be with and you do not have to pick a close relative just because they are a close relative. Frequently people pick, for example, a sibling simply because of the relationship, but have all kinds of reasons why they wouldn’t pick the sibling except for the relationship. I recently had a case where the parents were talking about how her sister is horrible with money, they don’t like how she raises her kids, and they questioned a lot of her personal decisions.  Yet, they named her as the guardian of their children only because of the fact that she was a sibling.

Parents often say they would like to name a sister and her husband. However, if the sister passed away, are the parents okay if her husband raises their children along with his children, and any potential new spouse and her children. Usually the answer is no, I guess I just want my sibling. The same is true if the two named people get divorced – who would be the guardian? It’s also a great idea to name a backup in case something happens to the person you’ve named, to avoid the court system after your death if your named guardian can’t do it. Your children will not need the added trauma of a court battle to decide who will raise them at such a traumatic time.  

Pick people who you trust and who share your vision of life and goals to ensure your children will continue to be raised the way you want in the event of your death.

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Jeffrey Bellomo

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